EQ 4 - Self Motivation,

The next three dimensions of Goleman's definition of EQ are as follows:


3) Motivating One's Self

Self Motivation refers as what its name suggests, to motivate oneself such that one is able to focus on the task at hand, pay attention to it, and following through with plans. It also encompasses behvaing responsibly and more importantly, less impulsively. Remember the Marshmallow Experiment as mentioned in one of the earlier posts? Deferred ratification falls under this dimension and the success conquering of it will have a higher chance of enabling the person to do well for tests and later on, succeed in life.


4) Knowing the Emotions of Others

Knowing the emotions of others is the next dimension in EQ and is one of the two dimensions on interpersonal skills. This dimension includes empathy, taking the perspective of others, being sensitive to others' feelings, as well as providing a listening ear to others when the need arises. This dimension is important as it is one of the building foundations needed to build a more meaningful and lasting relationships with others later on in life.


5) Relationship Skills

Relationship Skills, as according to Goleman, is the final dimension of EQ. It is an interpersonal skill, and is one that is the more difficult of all, as it involves interactions with other people, with diverse ideas, characters and background from oneself.

This dimension entails understanding of others and relationships, skillful resolving of conflicts, negotiating and solving conflicts and disagreements, solving relationship problems (yourself or others), skillful communication and many other aspects where relationships are concerned. It is also being popular, outgoing, friendly, involved with and sought out by peers, being concerned, caring and considerate, as well as being pro-social, harmonious in groups, helpful, sharing, cooperative and democratic.

It can be seen that a mastery in dimension five will mean that one has attained a high level of EQ and the skills learnt throughout the process of attainment will be useful for life.

Annie