The next three dimensions of Goleman's definition of EQ are as follows:
3) Motivating One's Self
Self Motivation refers as what its name suggests, to motivate oneself such that one is able to focus on the task at hand, pay attention to it, and following through with plans. It also encompasses behvaing responsibly and more importantly, less impulsively. Remember the Marshmallow Experiment as mentioned in one of the earlier posts? Deferred ratification falls under this dimension and the success conquering of it will have a higher chance of enabling the person to do well for tests and later on, succeed in life.
4) Knowing the Emotions of Others
Knowing the emotions of others is the next dimension in EQ and is one of the two dimensions on interpersonal skills. This dimension includes empathy, taking the perspective of others, being sensitive to others' feelings, as well as providing a listening ear to others when the need arises. This dimension is important as it is one of the building foundations needed to build a more meaningful and lasting relationships with others later on in life.
5) Relationship Skills
Relationship Skills, as according to Goleman, is the final dimension of EQ. It is an interpersonal skill, and is one that is the more difficult of all, as it involves interactions with other people, with diverse ideas, characters and background from oneself.
This dimension entails understanding of others and relationships, skillful resolving of conflicts, negotiating and solving conflicts and disagreements, solving relationship problems (yourself or others), skillful communication and many other aspects where relationships are concerned. It is also being popular, outgoing, friendly, involved with and sought out by peers, being concerned, caring and considerate, as well as being pro-social, harmonious in groups, helpful, sharing, cooperative and democratic.
It can be seen that a mastery in dimension five will mean that one has attained a high level of EQ and the skills learnt throughout the process of attainment will be useful for life.
Annie
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Thursday, January 18, 2007
EQ 3 - Self Awareness and Self Control
Yesterday, I discussed on the five dimensions of EQ as highlighted by Goleman.
Before we can embark on the discussion of the techniques, perhaps let me first elaborate on what the five dimensions mean in greater details.
1) Awareness of one's own emotions
This refers to the self awareness of one's own feelings, identify them and recognize what could have caused these feelings. In addition, one is also able to recognize and differentiate between feelings and actions.
As such, those who score high in this area will be those who are able to recognize the differences between the various emotions, and in fact, recognize the intensity of the emotion experienced.
2) Controlling One's Own Emotions
After being able to identify the emotion experienced, the next stage would be to be able to control these emotions. Self control is necessary, especially where relationships are concerned, as one's cannot always be controlled by one's emotion, for there are too often situations which requires us to be composed and controlled in our own emotions - as one grows older, one is less able (or rather, allowed) to behave like a child. Thus, we have to learn to tolerate, carry out anger management, control impulses to behave rashly, avoiding aggressive behaviour, managing stress, and on the positive side, have positive thoughts about oneself, family and one's surroundings. All these done, due to our desire to fit into the society and be accepted by others.
One who scores high in this area would be one who is aware of the causes of emotions, and is a mature user of the various self-control techniques. They would be the ones who will definitely not let their emotions get the better of them, and let whatever feelings bottled up inside them betray them on the outside.
As you might have realised, the more you learn about EQ, the more important it is for one to be a master in it if one is to succeed. No doubt, IQ is important, but as the saying goes, "To be hired, IQ is important, but to be promoted, EQ is."
For the next three dimensions, I shall continue the discussion in the next blog entry. Meanwhile, chew on today's entry!
Annie
Before we can embark on the discussion of the techniques, perhaps let me first elaborate on what the five dimensions mean in greater details.
1) Awareness of one's own emotions
This refers to the self awareness of one's own feelings, identify them and recognize what could have caused these feelings. In addition, one is also able to recognize and differentiate between feelings and actions.
As such, those who score high in this area will be those who are able to recognize the differences between the various emotions, and in fact, recognize the intensity of the emotion experienced.
2) Controlling One's Own Emotions
After being able to identify the emotion experienced, the next stage would be to be able to control these emotions. Self control is necessary, especially where relationships are concerned, as one's cannot always be controlled by one's emotion, for there are too often situations which requires us to be composed and controlled in our own emotions - as one grows older, one is less able (or rather, allowed) to behave like a child. Thus, we have to learn to tolerate, carry out anger management, control impulses to behave rashly, avoiding aggressive behaviour, managing stress, and on the positive side, have positive thoughts about oneself, family and one's surroundings. All these done, due to our desire to fit into the society and be accepted by others.
One who scores high in this area would be one who is aware of the causes of emotions, and is a mature user of the various self-control techniques. They would be the ones who will definitely not let their emotions get the better of them, and let whatever feelings bottled up inside them betray them on the outside.
As you might have realised, the more you learn about EQ, the more important it is for one to be a master in it if one is to succeed. No doubt, IQ is important, but as the saying goes, "To be hired, IQ is important, but to be promoted, EQ is."
For the next three dimensions, I shall continue the discussion in the next blog entry. Meanwhile, chew on today's entry!
Annie
EQ 2
As promised, today's post will be a continuation of yesterday's discussion, and will mainly focus on the dimensions of EQ.
According to Daniel Goleman, he has defined EQ into five dimensions, namely
1) Awareness of One's Own Emotions
2) Controlling One's Own Emotions
3) Motivating One's Self
4) Knowing the Emotions of Others
5) Relationship Skills
The above are the five dimensions of EQ by Goleman for educators. The development of the five dimensions are all very important, especially where children are concerned. For a healthy transition from the childhood into the adulthood and having healthy relationships with people, development of these dimensions are imperative.
Thanks to the extensive research done by researchers and educators worldwide, there are now so many techniques that the educators and parents can employ to train and develop the child in these dimensions.
Perhaps, this shall be the topic for my blog entry tomorrow.
Annie
According to Daniel Goleman, he has defined EQ into five dimensions, namely
1) Awareness of One's Own Emotions
2) Controlling One's Own Emotions
3) Motivating One's Self
4) Knowing the Emotions of Others
5) Relationship Skills
The above are the five dimensions of EQ by Goleman for educators. The development of the five dimensions are all very important, especially where children are concerned. For a healthy transition from the childhood into the adulthood and having healthy relationships with people, development of these dimensions are imperative.
Thanks to the extensive research done by researchers and educators worldwide, there are now so many techniques that the educators and parents can employ to train and develop the child in these dimensions.
Perhaps, this shall be the topic for my blog entry tomorrow.
Annie
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