The Power of Praises

This is a continuation of the discussion on 12.01.2007 on the negative self image of students. As highlighted in the discussion, it was observed by a teacher that quite a number of students nowadays have very negative self image and it will ultimately lead on to numerous undesirable attributes if not rectified in time.

Actually, one powerful and yet easy solution is praises. Don't underestimate the power of praises. Occassionally praising a child at the right moments will serve as a form of booster for the child's self confidence as praises are all positive statements about the good things or behaviour that the child has done.

In addition, by praising the child, not only they will feel good and be more confident, at the same time, it also serves as a positive reinforcement for the child and thus increases the possibility of the child to do a better job in the future so as to experience the wonderful feeling of being praised again. To further add on, some psychologists have discovered that in actual fact, for quite a large amount of time in a lifetime, people do actions simply just to win praises. This is the magic of the feel good factor.

Thus, instead of reinforcing the child negatively, such as scolding, beating or critizing, what the parents can do is to apply positive reinforcements. This is where praises can come in. But one thing to bear in mind when lavishing a praise on the child is that - do not overdo it, for then it will seem to more precious that way to the child.

Annie